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We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming - or damning.

Albert Ellis

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Albert Ellis
Age: 93 †
Born: 1913
Born: September 27
Died: 2007
Died: July 24
Behaviour Therapist
Cognitive Scientist
Non-Fiction Writer
Psychologist
Sex Educator
Pittsburg
Pennsylvania
Neurosis
Blame
Essence
Single
Word
Actually
Damning
Blaming

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