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People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.

Albert Ellis

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Albert Ellis
Age: 93 †
Born: 1913
Born: September 27
Died: 2007
Died: July 24
Behaviour Therapist
Cognitive Scientist
Non-Fiction Writer
Psychologist
Sex Educator
Pittsburg
Pennsylvania
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I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it - going around the world, teaching the gospel according to St. Albert.
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