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People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.
Albert Ellis
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Albert Ellis
Age: 93 †
Born: 1913
Born: September 27
Died: 2007
Died: July 24
Behaviour Therapist
Cognitive Scientist
Non-Fiction Writer
Psychologist
Sex Educator
Pittsburg
Pennsylvania
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The goal of all life is to have a ball.
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We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.
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People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change.
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Thinking rationally is often different from positive thinking, in that it is a realistic assessment of the situation, with a view towards rectifying the problem if possible.
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This, perhaps, goes to show that conditional self-esteem, as I have said for many years, is an insidious, real sickness, so much so that even Buddhists carelessly sneak it in and sometimes encourage their clients to achieve it.
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People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. They always have the power to think, and to think about their thinking, and to think about thinking about their thinking, which the goddamn dolphin, as far as we know, can't do. Therefore they have much greater ability to change themselves than any other animal has.
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Even injustice has it's good points. It gives me the challenge of being as happy as I can in an unfair world.
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Reality is not so much what happens to us rather, it is how we think about those events that create the reality we experience. In a very real sense, this means that we each create the reality in which we live.
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Eating is always a decision, nobody forces your hand to pick up food and put it into your mouth.
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The art of love is largely the art of persistence.
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Failure doesn't have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.
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By not caring too much about what people think, I'm able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often unpopular. And I succeed.
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There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.
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There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women or that men are more willing to surrender their irrational beliefs. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.
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