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People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.

Albert Ellis

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Albert Ellis
Age: 93 †
Born: 1913
Born: September 27
Died: 2007
Died: July 24
Behaviour Therapist
Cognitive Scientist
Non-Fiction Writer
Psychologist
Sex Educator
Pittsburg
Pennsylvania
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I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them.
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Convince yourself that worrying about many situations will make them worse rather than improve them.
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Lack of forgiveness of others breeds lack of self-forgiveness.
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You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.
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The emotionally mature individual should completely accept the fact that we live in a world of probability and chance, where there are not, nor probably ever will be, any absolute certainties, and should realize that it is not at all horrible, indeed—such a probabilistic, uncertain world.
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If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other experiments.
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We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.
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The goal of all life is to have a ball.
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Unless, of course, you insist on identifying yourself with the people and things you love and thereby seriously disturb yourself.
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When I started to get disillusioned with psychoanalysis I reread philosophy and was reminded of the constructivist notion that Epictetus had proposed 2,000 years ago: People are disturbed not by events that happen to them, but by their view of them. I could see how that applied to many of my clients.
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I don't recommend that people speak their minds to their bosses or to somebody who's directly over them. You need to know when to speak your mind and what the penalty will be for doing so. Sometimes it's worth it, and often it's not!
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As a matter of fact, as a result of my philosophy, I wasn't even upset about Hitler. I was willing to go to war to knock him off, but I didn't hate him. I hated what he was doing.
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People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change.
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People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.
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Attempts to help humans eliminate all self-ratings and views self-esteem as a self-defeating concept that encourages them to make conditional evaluations of self. Instead, it teaches people unconditional self-acceptance.
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You have only to exist as you do and to live your life as best you can.
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Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny.
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Strong feelings are fine it's the overreactions that mess us up.
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So I'd better stop my whining and help myself cope better with even the worst Adversities.
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