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People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.

Albert Ellis

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Albert Ellis
Age: 93 †
Born: 1913
Born: September 27
Died: 2007
Died: July 24
Behaviour Therapist
Cognitive Scientist
Non-Fiction Writer
Psychologist
Sex Educator
Pittsburg
Pennsylvania
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The emotionally mature individual should completely accept the fact that we live in a world of probability and chance, where there are not, nor probably ever will be, any absolute certainties, and should realize that it is not at all horrible, indeed—such a probabilistic, uncertain world.
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For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency.
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As a matter of fact, as a result of my philosophy, I wasn't even upset about Hitler. I was willing to go to war to knock him off, but I didn't hate him. I hated what he was doing.
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People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. They always have the power to think, and to think about their thinking, and to think about thinking about their thinking, which the goddamn dolphin, as far as we know, can't do. Therefore they have much greater ability to change themselves than any other animal has.
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I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs. In that sense, psychotherapy belongs in the schools.
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The trouble with most therapy is that it helps you feel better. But you don't get better. You have to back it up with action, action, action.
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I regret that I've been so busy with clinical work that I haven't been able to spend much time on experiments and outcome studies.
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I think it's unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair that's the human condition.
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The attitude of unconditional self-acceptance is probably the most important variable in their long-term recovery.
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If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.
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I'm very happy. I like my work and I like the various aspects of it - going around the world, teaching the gospel according to St. Albert - I like that. And seeing clients, doing group therapy, writing books.
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There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.
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There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women or that men are more willing to surrender their irrational beliefs. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.
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You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.
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