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We envy only those whom we feel ourselves to be like we envy only members of our reference group. There are few successes more unendurable than those of our close friends.

Alain de Botton

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Alain de Botton
Age: 55
Born: 1969
Born: December 20
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City of Zurich
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It is in dialogue with pain that many beautiful things acquire their value. Acquaintance with grief turns out to be one of the more unusual prerequisites of architectural appreciation. We might, quite aside from all other requirements, need to be a little sad before buildings can properly touch us.
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The moment we cry in a film is not when things are sad but when they turn out to be more beautiful than we expected them to be.
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Forcing people to eat together is an effective way to promote tolerance.
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My writing always came out of a very personal place, out of an attempt to stay sane.
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The greatest works of art speak to us without knowing us.
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It is perhaps sad books that best console us when we are sad, and to lonely service stations that we should drive when there is no one for us to hold or love.
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Literature deeply stands opposed to the dominant value system-the one that rewards money and power. Writers are on the other side-they make us sympathetic to ideas and feelings that are of deep importance but can’t afford airtime in a commercialized, status-consciou s, and cynical world.
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I passionately believe that's it's not just what you say that counts, it's also how you say it - that the success of your argument critically depends on your manner of presenting it.
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The materialistic view of happiness of our age starkly revealed in our understanding of the word luxury.
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It's perhaps easier now than ever before to make a good living it's perhaps harder than ever before to stay calm, to be free of career anxiety.
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It is not just nature that defies us. Human life is as overwhelming... If we spend time in it [the vast spaces of nature], they may help us to accept more graciously the great, unfathomable events that molest our lives and will inevitably return us to dust.
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We often lose our tempers not with those who are actually to blame just with those who love us enough to forgive us our foul moods.
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Intuition is unconscious accumulated experience informing judgement in real time.
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I think people want to get married to end their emotional uncertainty. In a way, they want to end powerful feelings, or certainly the negative ones.
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...if the beginnings of love and amorous politics are equally rosy, then the ends may be equally bloody.
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Curiosity might be pictured as being made up of chains of small questions extending outwards, sometimes over huge distances, from a central hub composed of a few blunt, large questions.
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If it is true that love is the pursuit in another of qualities we lack in ourselves, then in our love of someone from another culture, one ambition may be to weld ourselves more closely to values missing from our own culture.
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The only people we can think of as normal are those we don't yet know very well.
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what we call a home is merely any place that succeeds in making more consistenly available to us the important truths which the wider world ignores, or which our distracted and irresolute selves have trouble holding onto. (p123) Architecture of Happiness
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Love is an incurable disease. In love, there is permanent suffering. Those who love and those who are happy are not the same.
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